<p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">23 reasons why you may feel lonely</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-4 Types of loneliness</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-66 tips on how to be alone without being lonely - things to do when you are alone and feeling lonely</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Being alone is alright but feeling lonely sucks.</b><br></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Feeling lonely sucks-out all your zest, zeal, hopes, happiness, energy and will for life.</b></p><p>Loneliness <b data-redactor-tag="b">can lead to feelings of anxiety, despair and depression</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Social-loneliness</b> happens - <b data-redactor-tag="b">when we do not have a confidante or close-person with whom you can share your deepest desires, aspirations, fears and anxieties.</b></p><p>Social-loneliness <b data-redactor-tag="b">can also be felt when you are unable to get support from your peers, colleagues, family and friends</b>. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Emotional-loneliness</b> happens because of<b data-redactor-tag="b"> lack of intimacy in close relationships with your parents, children or your romantic partner.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Intellectual-loneliness </b>happens - when the group of people you have to spend time with <b data-redactor-tag="b">- have very different levels of understanding, knowledge and interests as well as background.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Then there is loneliness - when you are living a directionless and goalless and aimless life.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You can feel utterly lonely - even when surrounded by people and in positive-festive occasions</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Feeling-lonely is threatening and very harmful to the</b> wellbeing, safety and emotional-balance and security of people suffering from it.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">APA recognizes prolonged-loneliness</b> - as something which requires immediate attention and treatment.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">This article is about how to be alone - without feeling lonely.</b></p><p>Most people have the <b data-redactor-tag="b">needs of being included, being-loved and belongingness and to have close relationship with few people</b>.</p><p>But solitude - <b data-redactor-tag="b">that is having a quality time with your own self is as important. </b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Solitude</b> creates opportunities for <b data-redactor-tag="b">self-discovery, self-reflection, mindfulness, emotional awareness and connecting with your own self</b> - for greater self-confidence, self-pride and self-respect.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">People who enjoy spending time by themselves continue to maintain positive social relationships</b> that they can return to when they crave connection. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Whereas loneliness is filled with the feelings of isolation, separation, rejection, or abandonment by other people</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">That is why in best relationships have to have a balance between spending-time together and giving space to each other.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">23 reasons why you may feel lonely</b></p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">You are a person who must spend few hours every day with your friends and loved ones</b> - then you would certainly feel lonely if these interactions are only couple of times a week</li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">You are</b> self-time-spend person [<b data-redactor-tag="b">or a loner</b>] - who likes to spend time with himself/herself - then for you even once a week social interactions may feel adequate</li> <li>3.Because your children have moved out and you feel terrible being-in and returning-to an empty house</li> <li>4.You don't have strong bonding with your partner or siblings or parents or anyone you are living with- you might feel lonely even when you are with these people</li> <li>5.May be you are into prolonged internal-grieving - then even when celebrations are going on in your place - you may feel cut-off and lonely</li> <li>6.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Sometimes when you are going against the tide or taking a path not travelled or standing-up for something that you believe-in </b>- you may experience what I call <b data-redactor-tag="b">Ukraine-syndrome</b> - where people will watch from the periphery and will not help you or even offer their moral-support - <b data-redactor-tag="b">if you are facing this type of situation - then it is perfectly alright - as this situation is faced by almost all the greatest leaders, change-makers, path-breakers, trendsetters and positive-disrupters</b>.</li> <li>7.You are being ridiculed and laughed at when you attempt larger than life goals - which can trigger the feelings of all-alone</li> <li>8.You are at the top of professional pyramid - and even if you are stuck you have to fight it all by yourself</li> <li>9.In all these situations you have to walk-alone - with only your own convictions, your self-belief and your resolve.</li> <li>10.You are dis-connected with your most near and dear ones - too can trigger the feelings of loneliness.</li> <li>11.You are feeling nostalgic for previous-times after a disruptive-change and are longing for same types of social interactions and people as you used to have - this reason too will give rise to and compound your loneliness</li> <li>12.When you feel unwanted and unneeded </li> <li>13.When you feel unworthy of other's affections, love and support</li> <li>14.One of the reasons - everyday loneliness happens when you have made yourself isolated and your intrinsic needs of healthy social interaction and connecting with other human-being are not getting met</li> <li>15.But all these aforementioned situations are temporary - and pass soon </li> <li>16.Then there is what is known as prolonged-loneliness - this can exhaust you emotionally, mentally and physically and can prompt physical symptoms like unexplained aches and pains, sleep-issues and may weaken your immune system feeling distant from friends</li> <li>17.Being single</li> <li>18.Not fitting in as you have you have different interests</li> <li>19.Being the primary care-giver for someone close to you who is sick or has a disability can often make you feel like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders</li> <li>20.Feeling unwanted in toxic relationships</li> <li>21.Feeling unwanted because of anxiety</li> <li>22.Feeling unwanted in family & friend relationships</li> <li>23.Feeling unwanted in romantic relationships</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Some people are naturally happy alone - but for the people who need bonding and connecting with people to feel good</b> - there are ways to become more comfortable with being alone - even if you are an extreme extrovert.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">There are ways to combat loneliness even when you are alone</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">66 tips on how to be alone without being lonely - things to do when you are alone and feeling lonely</b> - given randomly and for all <b data-redactor-tag="b">1 sentence advice there is a detailed do-it-yourself </b>blog among my 900+ articles on my both websites</p> <ul><li>1.Accept this - <b data-redactor-tag="b">that you are not alone in your loneliness - feeling lonely from time to time is natural and not uncommon</b></li> <li>2.Identify your type of loneliness - whether it is <b data-redactor-tag="b">social-loneliness</b>, <b data-redactor-tag="b">intellectual-loneliness</b> or <b data-redactor-tag="b">emotional-loneliness</b> or effects of <b data-redactor-tag="b">having goal-less life</b> - this will help you find the right set of antidote</li> <li>3.Realize that loneliness is a feeling - <b data-redactor-tag="b">loneliness for an extrovert and loneliness for an introvert are two very different things</b></li> <li>4.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Identify your social-interaction needs - everyone has different interaction needs</b> - and whether they are being met or not sufficiently and regularly</li> <li>5.Acknowledge <b data-redactor-tag="b">any feelings or signs of loneliness - such as a sense of emptiness, excessive feelings of melancholy</b></li> <li>6.Learning to love yourself and enjoying your time alone - <b data-redactor-tag="b">is something can be learned by practice - especially if you are an extrovert and are forced to be alone and thus feeling lonely</b></li> <li> 7. Fill your house with soothing and happy music - but avoid listening to sad songs at any cost</li> <li>8.Read engaging suspense-thriller or classic ghost-stories or any book that immerses you within </li> <li>9.Watch comedy-serials which makes you feel emotionally lighter - like tom-jerry that gels with you</li> <li>10.Avoid watching news-channels</li> <li>11.Sit in the balcony and watch the traffic <a name="stay-connected"></a></li> <li>12.Stay connected - <b data-redactor-tag="b">instead of texting talk through video and audio - hearing a loved one's voice for even 5-minutes help bring down your feelings of loneliness</b> — for you and may be for them - as it is not always possible to spend time with family, friends and loved ones by physically present with them</li> <li>13.Explore and look for new meaningful-connections <b data-redactor-tag="b">- through face to face book clubs, theatre and music and art tours and gatherings </b>which creates opportunities for meeting new people.</li> <li>14. Make the most of your <span data-redactor-tag="b">interactions -<b> try to spend time doing activities with your closest friend </b></span></li> <li>15.Avoid being in a large group of casual acquaintances - <b data-redactor-tag="b">where nothing more than gossip happens</b> - as this can make you feel lonely if you don't enjoy meaningless chatter </li> <li>16.Make your interactions more meaningful by sharing personal experiences - <b data-redactor-tag="b">ask questions, listen and share</b> </li> <li>17.Talk about things that matter to you most — work, creative projects, mutual interests </li> <li>18.Have conversations around things that bring you both joy rather than dwelling entirely on distressing news.</li> <li>19. Get out side work in your favorite café</li> <li>20.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Write about your life experiences of all type and share these through podcast, YouTube and blog</b> sites</li> <li>21.Enjoy brunch with friends </li> <li>22.Get online and play a game </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">23.</b>Spend time in nature - go with a focus -<b data-redactor-tag="b">like say bird-watching, enjoying the quiet or listening to the wind playing music flowing through trees</b></li> <li>24.Loneliness can affect the quality of your sleep - <b data-redactor-tag="b">so learn to tire-yourself meaningfully - by cycling or having a mini-trek</b> - for fitful sleep</li><li>25. Find channels or people to express what you feel - talk about your feelings</li><li><span>26. </span><span>Bring out your creative side - </span><span>like writing, cooking, drawing or any artistic pursuits</span><br></li> <li>27.Consider a pet - <b data-redactor-tag="b">although having a pet can restrict many of your activities as downside</b></li><li><b data-redactor-tag="b">28. Take a break from social media</b></li><li><b data-redactor-tag="b">29. Find and do something you love</b></li><li><b data-redactor-tag="b">30. Reach out for help and if need be seek professional help</b></li><li><b data-redactor-tag="b">31.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learn skills to manage distress in the moment - explore strategies to prevent loneliness in the future</b><br></li><li><b data-redactor-tag="b">32. Attend virtual social gatherings </b></li><li><b data-redactor-tag="b">33. Volunteer virtually</b></li><li><span>34.Avoid comparing yourself to others</span><br></li> <li>35.Day-dream freely - schedule time to let your mind wander</li> <li>36.Get physical exercise on a daily basis</li> <li>37.Have a dance party all by yourself if you can't get others to join you - dance like no one's watching - no body is</li> <li>38.Cook and serve yourself a meal that you relish</li> <li>39.Make plans for solo outings</li> <li>40.Use technology wisely - without becoming its slave</li> <li>41.Learn something new that adds value to you</li> <li>42.Meditate </li> <li>43.Identify and indulge in your favorite pastime</li> <li>44.Get comfortable being uncomfortable</li> <li>45.Acknowledge that you feel lonely</li> <li>46.Develop a plan -sometimes you need to solve a problem - and in other situation -you need to solve how you feel about the problem</li> <li>47.Connect with people from your past - just call them up</li> <li>48.Join a group or club and an online forum or form your own</li> <li>49.Learn to be a great observer - this will make you skilled in understanding people better</li> <li>50.Understand you are good enough - talk and listen to yourself</li> <li>51.Stay busy meaningfully</li> <li>52.Learn to cherish and enjoy the quiet</li> <li>53.Write down positive memories</li> <li>54.Make a schedule for yourself and stick to it</li> <li>55.Turn your loneliness into solitude</li> <li>56.Strengthen a current relationship</li> <li>57.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Stop your negative thought cycles - to put an end to these negative thought cycles, we need to take action</b>—do something different that stops these thoughts and changes our experience of the world. </li> <li>58.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Spend money on experiences</b> - stop spending on things for momentary pleasure</li> <li>59.Nurture your network - <b data-redactor-tag="b">sometimes you can end up feeling alone even though you know many people</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">60.</b>Be your own best friend - <b data-redactor-tag="b">feeling unwanted should never define you</b></li> <li>61.Switch routes to have a change of scenery when you go out to walk every day</li> <li>62.Go spend time with nature at different times of the day so you can enjoy sunrises, sunsets, and mid-afternoons if possible</li> <li>63.Become curious - learn to ask interesting questions</li> <li>64.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Slow down - take your time</b> - savoring taste or doing work with focus on excellence <b data-redactor-tag="b">while enjoying the process</b> </li> <li>65.Create something - rebuild - repair</li> <li>66.Reframe your negative <b data-redactor-tag="b">thoughts although it can be an incredibly challenging task - stop thinking in terms of black and white</b></li></ul><div><b>#intellectualloneliness, #emotionalloneliness, #socialloneliness, #whyyoufeellonely, #4typesoflonliness, #howtobealonewithoutfeelinglonely, #thingstodowhenyouarefeelinglonely, #activitiestodowhenaloneandlonely, #howtostopfeelingunwantedandlonely, #whylonelinesssucks, #beingaloneandlonely, #benefitsofsolitude, #solitude<span class="redactor-invisible-space"></span><br></b></div>