<p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-100 tips on How to stop putting pressure on yourself and sabotaging your own life yourself by cutting down and minimizing your self-imposed stress</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-9 ways how we create pressure on ourselves - unnecessarily without any basis - through our habits of mind</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-9 things which can trigger pressure in your life</b></p><p><br></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">What makes you feel pressurized and who make you feel powerless.</b><br></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">And under pressure - what you do - how you react or respond.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">If you know your pressure-triggers - both people and situation </b>- then you could have most meaningful life and minimize your stress-levels.</p><p>We also need to be aware of and be able to differentiate between - <b data-redactor-tag="b">when we are ourselves creating pressure unnecessarily and when others are creating stress in our lives.</b></p><p>It is the most <b data-redactor-tag="b">important awareness that we can have about ourselves</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">What happens when we are under mental-emotional-physical pressure - to understand this please understand the analogy of squeezing a lemon</b> - what will come out - of-course lemon-juice - why it is what the lemon has.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">5 consequences when you feel pressurized - what comes out when life squeezes you </b></p> <ul><li>I.Your pent-up anger</li> <li>II.Your dormant-hatred</li> <li>III.Your suppressed-bitterness </li> <li>IV.Your pain, your shame, your guilt, your regret or your fear </li> <li>V.Or any outbursts of reactions triggered by your deep-rooted insecurities.</li></ul> <p>If someone says or does something - <b data-redactor-tag="b">that makes you lose your cool - what comes out of you is whatever is inside you which you have been holding and most probably nurturing unknowingly or unconsciously</b>. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">It does not matter who does the squeezing</b> - your loved ones, your bosses, your friends, the politicians or people with power and authority or even the government.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">All of us have enough stress as it is in life without aiding to create more of it - but you will find that is exactly what many of us do </b>- by making things harder on yourself unnecessarily.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">This is the focus of this article</b> - understanding and stop adding to your stress yourself.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You could have gone through hell</b> - but what you keep inside yourself is certainly your choice and your decision.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You can choose to keep </b>compassion, love, empathy, understanding, generosity, curiosity, laughter and all the powerful positive emotions and things.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">But for this you need to learn - how to take out all negativities which are residing deep within</b> [which you don't want in your life to] and <b data-redactor-tag="b">replace these with love and other strong positive emotions</b> - to live a highly meaningful, fulfilling and functional life</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">9 things which can trigger pressure in your life [combine these with the 9 reasons of self-imposed pressure] - you can add other examples</b></p> <ul><li>1.Insults</li> <li>2.Putdowns</li> <li>3.Ridicule</li> <li>4.Rebukes </li> <li>5.Others offending you</li> <li>6.Public criticism</li> <li>7.People in powerful position asking you to do something that is against your values</li> <li>8.Dominating person forcing you to accept and do things that don't have any role of yours</li> <li>9.Making you feel guilty or ashamed or angry or embarrassed</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">9 ways how we create pressure on ourselves - unnecessarily without any basis - through our habits of mind </b></p> <ul><li>1.By overthinking </li> <li>2.By overanalyzing</li> <li>3.By magnifying</li> <li>4.By generalizing</li> <li>5.By worrying about future</li> <li>6.By not able to let go of past regrets</li> <li>7.You only think in the worst case scenarios -in all impending events</li> <li>8.You are way too concerned about others perceptions of you and what they think of you</li> <li>9.By letting your one-off negative experience create the horror story - in your imagination</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">100 tips on How to stop putting pressure on yourself and sabotaging your own life yourself by cutting down and minimizing your self-imposed stress - GIVEN RANDOMLY</b></p> <ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Reflect objectively - are you emotionally-mentally wired and programed and living a life of perfectionist</b> - as perfectionist can get into doing things much more than what is needed and feel drained and bitter later</li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that being oriented to high-achievement - is different than being a perfectionist</b> as it does not put any pressure - on the contrary you will feel charged and enthusiastic and full of energy</li> <li>3.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Giving your 100% and doing your best under the situation</b> - can be the best mental-attitude for growth and fulfillment as well as heathier</li> <li>4.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Even if you have made more mistakes than others and failed miserably umpteenth times</b> - it is perfectly alright - just get the lesson and move on</li> <li>5.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Yes focus on improving next time - be on the constant lookout for ways to improve</b> - especially when you do a good-but-not-perfect job - focus on finding the more effective way</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">6.</b>Spend some time <b data-redactor-tag="b">thinking about how you approach stress - in your day to day life</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">7.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">8 questions examine your relationship to stress</b></li> <li>I.What were the causes of this particular stressful situation</li> <li>II.What triggered the stressful situation</li> <li>III.Did you play any part in making this stressful situation</li> <li>IV.Could you have done anything differently to avoid it or to have better outcomes</li> <li>V.Did you react or respond</li> <li>VI.Did you use any technique to reduce the stress-level</li> <li>VII.What would do differently - in case you face similar situation again - list as many as you can </li> <li>VIII.Did this stressor turned out to be as negative as you thought or it has stimulated a growth trajectory</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">8.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand that hard work is ok - but being on the tenterhook 24x7 is not</b></li> <li>9.Learn and create a balance between hard-work and smart-work</li> <li>10.Create a balance between quality of your delivery and quantum of delivery</li> <li>11.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Never compromise with excellence and quality</b> - but this mindset should be self-inspiring rather than tiring for you</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">12.</b>Draw the line between <b data-redactor-tag="b">being excitedly busy and overwhelmed-tense-fatigued work schedule</b></li> <li>13.Engage in regular exercise, sleeping adequately, eating healthy and relaxing</li> <li>14.Spend time with loved ones and nurture your most important relationships</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">15.</b>Manage your energy by <b data-redactor-tag="b">taking care of yourself optimally - exhausted people lose momentum and eventually become the so-called losers and under-achievers</b></li> <li>16.Think practical - focus on taking actions to all that is bothering you</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">17.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">If you are getting negative thoughts - find out the reasons and the create a plan of actions and then act on that</b></li> <li>18.Allow yourself to feel all your negative emotions - <b data-redactor-tag="b">without living in denial - find ways to deal with them by identifying triggers</b> and creating solutions -</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">19.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Face the mirror accept your limitations and weaknesses - as well as strengths and capabilities</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">20.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">14 Signs when you are under pressure - add your own points </b></li> <li>I.Fidgeting</li> <li>II.Fast breathing</li> <li>III.Dizziness </li> <li>IV.Angry outbursts </li> <li>V.Getting sick more often</li> <li>VI.Feeling depressed</li> <li>VII.Unexplained aches and pains</li> <li>VIII.Digestive problems constipation</li> <li>IX.Work or study performance coming down</li> <li>X.Making impulsive decisions</li> <li>XI.Withdrawing from others</li> <li>XII.Eating too much or too little</li> <li>XIII.Sleeping too much or too little</li> <li>XIV.Lack of libido, interest and low or no sex drive</li> <li><a name="step_1_2"></a><a name="step_1_4"></a><b data-redactor-tag="b">21.</b>Ask yourself <b data-redactor-tag="b">what in the current situation you can control and what you can't</b></li> <li><a name="step_1_5"></a>22.Create a solutions by <b data-redactor-tag="b">working within your sphere of influence</b></li> <li>23.Challenge yourself to figure out each of your problems - the source of these problems -and your desired outcome.</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">24.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Make a list of options to resolving each problem</b> - Consider the pros and cons of each option - <b data-redactor-tag="b">select the one that will help you reach your desired outcome</b></li> <li>25.Create an action plan to follow-through on the solution within a realistic deadline</li> <li>26.Monitor, rack and evaluate your progress - are you satisfied with the results and progress - If not - go back to your list of options and improvise your action plan</li> <li>27.Create your own list of actions to manage your stress, fears and anxiety</li> <li>28.Take regular breaks - by stretching - having drink of water, walk around or taking a quick walk outdoors and get some fresh air</li> <li>29.Prioritize tasks- organize your daily tasks by order of importance<a name="step_3_3"></a></li> <li>30.Delegate delegate delegate</li> <li>31.Lean to say no to draining requests - if they are low priority</li> <li>32.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Ask for help - truly successful people know that they are not omnipotent</b> - and they reach out to their -when they find themselves in situations which are beyond their area of control</li> <li>33.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Re-frame your negative thoughts - by looking at the opportunity of learning or change or growth this change</b> is providing</li> <li>34.Tackle important but difficult situations head-on </li> <li>35.Learn to take tough-decision</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">36.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Accept the consequence of all your actions and decisions</b></li> <li>37.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Identify the sources of stress in your life right now and how you respond to these</b> - by looking closely at your habits, attitude, and excuses</li> <li>I.Do you treat stress as non-significant</li> <li>II.Do you take stress as an integral part of your work or home life and accept it as it is - without reflecting and taking actions to mitigate it and to improve your quality of life</li> <li>III.Do you blame your stress on other people or outside events</li> <li>IV.Until you accept responsibility for the role you play in creating or maintaining it -your stress level will remain outside your control </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">38.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Practice the simple 4as of stress management - avoid, alter, adapt, or accept</b></li> <li>39.Avoid unnecessary stress - look for stressors which can be eliminated </li> <li>40.Avoid people who stress you out </li> <li>41.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Face the stressing situation - proactively - start from the least threatening</b> and then once adept keep on exposing yourself to greater stress levels </li> <li>42.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Express your feelings assertively - stop</b> bottling them within yourself</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">43.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Set aside leisure time -do something you enjoy every day take up a relaxation practice</b></li> <li>44.Nurture your sense of humor</li> <li>45.Manage your time better </li> <li>46.Don't over-commit yourself</li> <li>47.Break large projects into small steps</li> <li>48.Focus on solutions and not the problem itself</li> <li>49.Identify what you need to learn to become better at managing your life</li> <li>50.Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs</li> <li>51.Pick hobbies - which makes you involved nicely with whatever you ae doing - like Reading, Playing golf, Doing puzzles - create your own list</li> <li>52.Talk about your problems - If things are bothering you - talk to family members, friends, or a therapist</li> <li>53.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Figure out why you are stressed out from the following but add your own points as well</b> - You can be broke- but you can ensure that you don't become broken</li> <li>I.No money</li> <li>II.Relationship issues</li> <li>III.Physical health issues</li> <li>IV.Living situation or lifestyle challenges</li> <li>V.All other reasons</li> <li>54.Decide how you are going to handle it</li> <li>55.Ask yourself - What lessons does this difficult situation teach me</li> <li>56.Practice drawing a healthy emotional-mental-physical boundary</li> <li>57.Draw a line between your work and your personal life - only you can do that as no one else is responsible or interested</li> <li>58.Relax through learning the right meditation</li> <li>59.Ask for support from family and friends</li> <li>60.Talk to trusted friends or family members about what's causing you stress Reach out to a colleague at work.</li> <li>61.Help someone else by volunteering.</li> <li>62.Have lunch or coffee with a friend.</li> <li>63.Ask a loved one to check in with you regularly.</li> <li>64.Accompany someone to the movies or a concert.</li> <li>65.Call or email an old friend.</li> <li>66.Schedule a weekly dinner date.</li> <li>67.Meet new people by taking a class or joining a club.</li> <li>68.Confide in a clergy member, teacher, or sports coach.</li> <li>69.Make time for fun and relaxation</li></ul><div><br></div><p>#avoidingselfimposedstress, #stopputtingpressureonyourself, #howwemanagetostressourselves, #selfimposedstress, #pressurethatwecreateonusunnecessarily, #whatcomesoutwhenlifesqueezesyou, #handleselfimposedstress, #tipsforavoidingselfinducedstress, #howcanyougetridofselftriggeredstress </p>